Did we have the license to wed?

Just came back from the movie license to wed and i must say its a must watch for all thsoe couples out there..

It actually turns the concept of marraige on its head! If you are looking to get married then its not important to know what you love about the other person.. whats more important is what you hate!!! Now it may seem absurd but its the things you hate is what you will need to accept, tolerate and live with for the rest of your life and ofcourse you would have to take steps to change what your partner hates in you!

Now to really hate a person you need to reallly love that person.. I know coz ive reallly hated a person i reallllly loved! Its so ironic that the movie depicted things that i could instantly connect with.. Im sure after 1 year with someone you start to know the not so pleasant things about that person and that what exactly happened to us (im speaking on the girls behalf also.. im sure she would have a longer list of things she hated in me!). The most startling similarity was the girls best guy friend angle in the movie! Oh my god was that true in my case or what!!!

I just couldn’t take the fact that she would talk more to her so called ex crush and best guy friend than me! Was i insecure maybe.. Did she do anything to make me feel better.. Not really! Thats exactly the issue the movie tackles.. little little things that one overlooks in a relationship which are noted by your partner and harboured as grudges in the heart.. Robin Williams who plays the character of the priest actually illustrates how shouting at each other and making up is the way a marital life can be made successfull.. In his words its called opening the channel of communication..

In my words i think if you are going to get close to someone then you are bound to hurt each other .. nearness will cause friction.. whats important is once you know what you hate in each other (this process of discovery itself is very important) you should stick it out to work on those things!!! Too bad like with many others even in my case also the girl i loved for the longest time in my life hated me and i hated her for things we did or said to each other.. trivial issues.. but we just couldn’t let our relationship rise above our respective ego’s and insecurities!! I guess we had the license to wed… but we never really used it.. :’(